Hello 2014! Here we are again, standing just over the threshold to a brand-new year.
The champagne has been popped and the ridiculous sparkle crowns worn, lopsided, as we rang in the new year in whatever style rocks your socks. Perhaps it was a quiet night in, like at my house, all warm and cosy with our pets and each other, the fire crackling and the Christmas tree lights shining like a million glittering stars; the perfect symbol of light and hope to cross over from a season of love, abundance and gratitude into a season of renewal, hope and change.
(Just for the record, we do not have a million fairy lights on our tree, though I would if I could fit them all on...)
Yup, we’re just off the starting line and, if you’ve guessed that I’m writing about New Year’s resolutions this month, then you are correct, my friend.
Rather than launch into a listing of things you want to do, or weight you want to lose, however, I’m more interested in looking at the idea of resolve itself. It’s not that the things you're resolved to do, or the weight you're hell-bent to lose aren’t interesting, inspiring or admirable goals unto themselves, but my guess is you’ve made resolutions before and not kept them. Maybe you’ve even made the exact same resolutions year after year (I’m getting close, here, aren’t I?). Something keeps on getting in the way of you achieving them, doesn’t it, whether it’s January first or any other day on the wall calendar.
Here’s the thing: What’s getting in the way is you. Not the guy behind you, or the woman you work for: It’s you. I’m sure you were hoping that it would be a something or someone else, or perhaps even a whole series of something and someone elses, that have been thwarting your most honourable plans.
I know—me too. Believe me, it would be so much easier to pout in my own little corner, in my own little chair (bonus points if you know that reference), waiting for my life to unfold in the manner in which I’ve longed to grow accustomed, than it is to stand up and <<gasp>> actually make the changes I want to see in my world, acting in accordance with the life I want to create.
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After all, I am the one saying I want these things (as are you the one saying whatever it is that makes your heart sing).
So, while I’m always happy to hear what people are envisioning for their future, and to listen to people expressing their goals and plans and adventures, I’m really curious as to who they’re going to need to be, in order to do what they say they want to do.
More than planning to hit the gym four days a week, getting a master’s degree, buying round-the-world plane tickets or booking your first sky dive (are you insane? Why would you jump out of a perfectly good airplane?), ask yourself who you are going to be? What part of you will you let shine this year? And what will you create with that light, that intention?
Are you an adventurer? A learner? A creator? Are you letting loose your courage, your compassion or your generosity? What’s your what-for? Let your intention drive your action and you will step into your life this year.
How do you feel about resolutions? Your reaction to the word may colour your being and your actions.
Definition-wise, we see that as a verb, “resolve” applies first to solutions for problems, disputes or contentious matters. Is your life, as it stood last year, a problem you need to solve? Is it a contentious matter? I hope not. It sounds a lot like fixing, which is innately backwards facing. As a noun, “resolve” reflects a firm determination to do something. We’re getting warmer here.
If we look at the origins of the word “resolve”, we see that it came from Latin and is a combination of “expressing intensive force” and “loosening”. Sounds like letting go, doesn’t it? It would make sense, really, to let go of and forgive what happened, or how the previous year[s] went, before we applied real force and momentum into creating something new.
My invitation? However you define your resolve, forget what you need to do and ask yourself what you want to do. After all, fitness facilities abound with good intentions based on needing to get in shape and lose some weight, but by February, those resolutions have lost their fizzle and gone as flat as any leftover New Year’s champagne would be over the same time period. Why you would have leftover champagne, I really don’t know; you get my meaning though. I was aiming for a seasonal analogy.
My point here is that, regardless of what you’re resolved to create or change in the coming year, find a way to embrace it, rather than struggle against it (you’re just fighting with yourself, by the way). Just like exercise, if you enjoy it, you’re more likely to stick with it.
So, what’s your what-for? Not what are you resolved to do (that sounds like a chore), but what do you want for this year? What will that enable in your life? What will that create in your world?
I’m excited for you: After all, I live in this world, too, so I hope you’re up to creating something awesome. If you and I haven't talked about it yet, we should, because I'd love to hear what you're up to in 2014! How can I be of service to you?
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