The best way to predict the future is to create it.– Peter F. Drucker
Does this ring a bell? We make a decision (remember; not making a decision is actually still making a decision and choosing everything is actually choosing nothing) based on what we perceive as our narrow boundaries of possibility and then we complain about the outcome, which is conveniently just what we'd said it would be.
It's almost like we can predict the future! Now, where'd I park my DeLorean...
Anytime we try to choose based on something that's happened on the past, we'll get what we always got.
Sure, there may be little differences, and it may seem like the whole situation is in fact very different, but want in on a secret? It's not.
Fear restricts possibility, or at least it does when we make our choices from fear-inspired options.
It's like watching an old show, you know, "that one where blah blah blah..". You already know how it ends, but you watch it anyway, because it's comfortable and you don't really need to pay attention to get the plot.
See, the past doesn't allow for a lot of creativity. It can't—it's kind of a done deal. Hindsight may be 20/20, but think of your rearview mirror: It's a pretty small reflective surface. The boundaries don't expand to let in a lot of innovative options.
So what, Bay? What's the other option? Well, for starters, try to avoid comparing current situations to past experiences. "But then, Bay, then," you say. "I don't know what to do."
If you don't know what to do, like you really don't know, that means you're in the realm of possibility. That means you're choosing something different. Something new. Now you're creating your future the way only you can!
Remember "choose your own adventure" books? They'd have been a whole lot less popular if you already knew the ending.
Just for the record, your future is happening all the time. Right now.
It's not like your future won't happen if you don't create something new. It's just that your future will happen to you or at you, instead of you creating it.
When you choose something new, you are looking your future in the eye and saying what you want it to be.
Oh, and also? How do you know if you're making the right choice? Easy: They're all right. There are no mistakes in life. So get out there and start making your future!
What will it be? A rerun? Or a pilot? Something new, something exciting. How are you choosing your own adventure?